Please Don't Text Me

Technology is great. I love it, you love it. It makes things faster, easier, and sexier, so what's there not to love? It may seem like all fun and games, but texting can be dangerous especially in your dating life. So unless you want to come off as a creep or fall prey to one, you should listen up.

1. Texting should be like note passing.
-You should only text when you can't talk. If you're running late, in a meeting, or being held hostage those are completely acceptable times to text. Otherwise pick up the phone!

2. Guys! Never text to set up a date!!
- It's totally weak and says that you don't care enough to pick up the damn phone. Don't be that dude. Be a gentleman. Your mom raised you better than that.

3. Ladies! If he likes you, he'll call you!
- If he started off calling then starts to ONLY text you, it's time to move on. We're all busy, but he should want to talk to you. You deserve at least that much. Sheesh!

4. People! Never send the "did you get my text" message!
- They got it and they don't want to talk to you. Sad but true. It takes two seconds to reply. Don't embarrass yourself by sending another text. It's a bad look. Screw them! Go call someone who likes you.

I Think I Love Me

While I'm looking for someone to share my life with and hoping to hear them confess their undying devotion to me, I think that it's important to say this to you first...I love you. I will never stop protecting, cherishing, or caring for you. You are beautiful and worthy of all of the wonderful things that this world has to offer. You're perfect right now. Always remember that.

XO

M

Can't It Be Simple?!

Whatever happened to liking someone and acting like it? You know being nice to them, showing interest, the good stuff. When did it become cool/normal to act like you don't give a shit about someone you're into? There are so many crazy rules out there, that it just becomes confusing. I always hear how you should keep him waiting and never show up early, be unavailable, don't call first, don't stalk him if he doesn't call ( kinda goes without saying) and on and on. I use to listen to everyone's advice and read all sorts books on the subject. What can I say, I try to use formulaic knowledge in every situation ( and I'm a nerd), but in the end none of what I learned made any sense.


It all seemed like games played to try to minimize the potential risk of pain, but in the end life IS pain. So, dating by the rules feels completely bland and lifeless to me. If I feel something for someone, that's HUGE! It's an amazing feeling and I want to let that person know. I want to show up on time to see him, call him to say I had fun, answer his call when I hear the phone ringing ( not on the third ring...wtf?). And if in the end he doesn't feel the same way about me (idiot) that's cool. That's just life.

I'm an adult and I want to date like an adult. That means being open and honest, but not desperate. I'm not going to wait for his call because I have a life, but I'm not going to act like I'm not happy when he does. No pretending, no games, no drama. Simple, right?