I Heart Jason

I saw Jason Mraz at the Hollywood Bowl last weekend and it was AMAZING! I had fun and I felt like I learned things about myself. This is the last song that he performed the last day of the tour in San Diego, and it's absolutely perfect. His music helps me see myself, and for that I will love it always. I'm truly grateful that his music found it's way into my life and I've been forever changed. Thanks Jason!

Put It In The Want Ads

So for the last couple of months I have been searching endlessly for a job. I have also been looking for a manfriend to no avail. Quality jobs and men are hard to come by in this economy, and I find myself becoming discouraged so I talked to my sister. I told her that I was willing to interview for anything reasonable, but I just couldn't lower my standards. It was then that it hit me that, I'm job-searching the way that I should be dating. So here's what I've learned about looking for love, from looking for a J-O-B:

1.REALLY get yourself out there.
-Whether you're looking for a man or a gig, you have to put yourself out there. Get out and search, tell everyone you know what you need, and be aggressive. Put an ad in the paper, spray paint your number on a billboard, get a 30 second commercial on public access, whatever. It's a numbers game at this stage so don't be shy. You never know who someone knows or what you'll find.

2.Don't act out of desperation.
- You will always regret taking a job ONLY for the money or dating a dude ONLY cause you're lonely. You wanna be happy right? You totally deserve to be in a situation that makes you feel fulfilled and giddy. Just wait it out, you'll find someone that makes you want to get between him and his Calvin's.

3.First impression is key.
-Pay very close attention during the interview/first date. People always tell you exactlly who they are, but you have to listen. All of the information that you need to know will be out there during this first meeting. (Once on a first date a guy told me sex stories about his budy and some chick he set him up with. SURPRISE! He turned out to be a sleazy asshole.) Don't be afraid to ask your questions. This person could potentially be a part of your life, so they have to impress you too. We all ready know you're great, now's the time to find out who the fuck they are.

4.Never except less than you are worth.
- Some people want to give you minimum pay for maximum effort, so it's important that you know what you're looking for and hold strong. If you want a serious relationship, don't settle for friends with benefits, or just "hanging out". Time is money honey. If he can't offer what you want, keep it pushing. It can be uncomfortable at times and almost painful to stick to your guns, but you'll be happier in the long run when you aren't trying to convince yourself that his 2am texts asking if you're still up aren't booty calls.

5.Trust your instincts.
- Once you make up your mind, don't torture yourelf with "what ifs". You moved on for a reason, so trust yourself. Second guessing yourself is a waste of time you could be spending finding someone awesome.

6.Keep looking until you're committed.
- You may have had a great first date/interview and everything was sunshine and Beatles songs, but you should never stop looking until you offically have the position. Until this guy wants to be serious, you shouldn't be. See other guys and have fun. Don't throw it in his face, just let him know that you won't be available. He'll catch on. Keep yourself busy and let this guy know that you are a hot comodity, and he needs to be on his best behavior or he might lose out to someone making a better offer.

7.Remember they need you, not the other way around.
-In the words of Kanye, "there's a thousand you's, there's only one of me."Always know that no matter what you are looking for, YOU are the prize. Any guy would be lucky to have you, and you should be treated as such. If you aren't getting what you desire from the situation, it's time to go. You deserve to happy and if you aren't, never be afraid to search for what will make feel fantastic.